Somewhere between the sunflower fields and the golden hills, time stretched and pulled us from one life moment to the next. The photos here carry a time-lapse that’s both visual and emotional: one where I held my daughter close to protect her from the world, and another where she now stands tall beside me, fully grown, grounded in her own presence.
Today, she said something that left me quietly shifted. “It’s strange,” she told me, “how once we grow up, we look at our parents and wonder how these flawed humans managed to raise us, or ever help us move from point A to point B...” Not in resentment, not in blame—just a genuine curiosity that comes with perspective. She wasn't accusing; she was reflecting. Her words came with the clarity of someone stepping out of the story long enough to see it whole. And hearing them didn’t hurt. They opened a door.
It made me step back from that familiar mother-role I’ve carried so long and look at her not as someone I must guide, but someone I now learn from. I saw her—not the child I sheltered, but the adult who is thinking, seeing, questioning, becoming. That she has reached this clarity means the world to me. And it’s making me want to approach her not with the authority of motherhood, but with the simple, deep honesty of one human to another.
So we’re walking side by side now, not with my arm pulling her close, but with our shoulders meeting. And I’m learning that love grows even stronger when you let it evolve.
4 responses to “From One Role to Another~”
Wonderful. When I was 5, my grandparents visited from Brittany to Paris where we were living for a short time. I remember seeing my mother taller than her father, my grandfather, and I had this flash. Children grew to be taller than their parents, because grownups after a while shrink. And I told my mother that, adding that when she would be small I would take care of her as she was taking care of me… She smiled. Little did we know that it would be true many years later when cancer took her…
Enjoy your tall daughter.
Thank you for sharing this intimate life story 🙏🏻
Beautiful words. I remember hearing those words “they grow up so fast.” Thinking it was just words by the elders wishing for younger days, until I had my own child and realize the time does go quickly and they become adults; finding myself wondering if I did a good job guiding and raising her. Now, I also learn from my daughter and how to forgive myself from error thinking or mistakes – not fully knowing how to be a parent, loving myself.
Thanks dear Barbara, yes it is a journey for me too. I am grateful for these deep altering moments.